It’s All About Connecting

Sometimes, a paranormal investigation isn’t just about the paranormal. There are times when I load up my gear not just because I want something to go bump in the night while I’m nearby, but because I want to make a connection with my fellow investigators or our client.

Don’t get me wrong, I want to help people and answer their questions about the paranormal and help them feel comfortable in their own homes. And, yeah, let’s be honest, I want to hear that disembodied voice or see that apparition because it makes my heart pound in a good way. That’s why I got involved in paranormal investigations. But I also enjoy talking to people, hearing their stories, and finding out who they are.

For instance, take this most recent investigation. On the drive home, fellow investigator Jordan and I talked music. I told him about my first 45 records (Yes, I’m that old. Shut up!) and we discussed the first cassette tapes/CDs we bought with our own money. I constantly shook my head over the fact that when I saw Bon Jovi’s “Livin’ on a Prayer” tour in 1986, he was three years old to my 14. He talked about what it was that made him fall in love with the Beatles and I talked about my LP of John Williams’ music.

It was a discussion that had nothing to do with the paranormal or the house we had just left behind, but it was a connection and that is what is so important as human beings. We need those connections to feel alive and not so alone in this big wide universe. By having these types of conversations with one another then we, as an investigative team, can work more cohesively together. We can be more sympathetic to our clients and what they are going through and we can treat our main clients, the spirits of those who have gone before, with compassion and patience.

It’s not just about the EVP sessions in a darkened room, trying to talk to someone we cannot see, hear, or feel. It’s also about the VP sessions at the restaurant before the investigation, on the client’s front porch between walk-throughs, and with the client on their sofa, that can have the greatest impact on our lives.

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About Heather S. Dobson

I wish I was Wonder Woman, but I'm actually a wife, mother of three young ones, a writer, a paranormal investigator, and a lunatic. I'm also hoping to win a Nobel Prize in physics, but I guess that means I should get something above a BS in said subject and do more in-depth, life-changing studies besides "the sticking power of mac 'n cheese on smooth wallpaper." Alas...
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